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The major lesson was spelt out clearly by John Gottman, a leading US researcher on marriage and relationships. He had tracked 130 newlyweds, observing their interactions and then following them for six years to see which marriages were happy and stable and which ended in divorce.

Gottman's advice to men was as follows: "If you want your marriage to last for a long time, just do what your wife says. Go ahead, give in to her. The marriages that did work all had one thing in common the husband was willing to give in to his wife".

Other researchers have reached similar conclusions- that the key to as lasting marriage today is the man's willingness to accept influence from his mate. As British social scientist Adreinne Burgess explains in her book Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow? (Vermillion, 2001), this doesn't mean that women's accepting of influence is of no importance.

"In good relationships both partners accommodate the other and to much the same degree. But the problem is that men's gender-training makes them more likely to be resistant to influence; it's the man's willingness to accommodate that shows up in their research as more important" says Burgess.

Gottman reported his surprise at the extent of the "loss of power (in marriage) that men have experienced in the last 40 years".

Having gained economic independence and the power to walk out of relationships where she isn't happy, the woman is now in control. And woe betide any partner who is insensitive to her needs.