Real Life Stories - Entries for April 2007

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Every now and again I have to remind him that I am in control and he can be a bit cheeky but he knows I’ll make the final decision like on the kitchen which I’m looking to change. Our relationship is very loving and we’re very happy but I would like to spank him more often and also make sure I’m the boss always, I feel we are feeling our way at the moment, what would you suggest?

Elise’s Response:

Jane, what I would suggest is that you just keep doing what you are doing. You and your husband are growing together as a couple and there will be some ups and downs along the way but as long as you communicate with each other and always love and respect each other, you will continue to experience growth in your roles.

I think it is wonderful how you are accepting of his desire to occasionally dress up in women’s clothing and I think it is marvelous how you both have realized that he needs to be under the control of a woman who loves and respects him. What was lacking from his other relationships was the female domination element because deep down he didn’t want to be in control. His controlling ways and his experimenting with being dominant with you was his way of compensating for his desire to be feminized. It was like two forces within him in conflict with each other but deep down he wanted to be in the submissive顺从 — willing to obey role and you have put much of his internal strife to rest by seizing control of the relationship. I hope he realizes how fortunate he is to have found you.