Different Loving or Perversion? Questions about D&S, B&D and S&M

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So I implore you not to go through with it. Go get some counseling about this desire if you don't think you can resist this temptation. Also, please find yourself another professional Dom. Most Pro Doms are intelligent and well grounded ladies who really care for their clients. Find a woman who will explore your fantasies and desires with you in a safe and sane environment. If you can't find one, then contact one of my associates for a counseling session. These ladies will point you in the right direction.

Q. Elise, I am constantly looking at BDSM web sites for information and training. I like to be educated in the art of BDSM. Once in a while I find web pages (by accident) where they have pictures of bloody subs顺从者 — a submissive person, or deeply bruised subs顺从者 — a submissive person. I always think to myself how aweful that is to reach that point. I have a hard limit and do no agree with bruising, or drawing blood. Am I the only Domme女主人 — a dominant woman who has a real problem with this? Or does most of the BDSM community not condone such treatment of subs顺从者 — a submissive person? I somehow feel like I am weak because this turns me off.

A. I agree with you 100%. Most of the BDSM community does not condone drawing blood or causing deep bruises. A skilled Dom learns how to discipline a man so that it feels to him like she is being severe but in fact, she will never break the skin or leave any permanent marks. Whipping a man is a skill that comes with experience. That is why you should always start out light to moderate and build him up to more severe.