Different Loving or Perversion? Questions about D&S, B&D and S&M

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In an earlier post, I explained the roots of S&M and how it was based on the life of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch and his book "Venus in Furs". This book at its core is a love story. S&M stood for Sacher-Masoch and it was an underground alternative lifestyle based on sadistic female domination and masochistic male submission based on the book "Venus in Furs". If one would read the words of Sacher Masoch one would see his worshipful attitude and longing to be dominated by a woman. He beautifully paints in words his feelings and desires to worship崇拜侍奉 — adoring service and serve a woman. Unfortunately, over the years S&M has come to mean Sadomasochism and it represented an abusive and unloving sexuality. Today's modern S&M community has tried to once again emphasize that they only endorse and practice S&M within a loving and caring relationship. Many people in the scene have rejected the label S&M altogether and instead embraced the letters D&S to represent their real lifestyle of Domination and submission within a committed and loving relationship.

The dark, gothic subculture has embraced the perverted symbolism of S&M as an unloving sexuality that fits within their fatalism philosophy and world viewpoint. That is why you will find web sites that cater to the dark imagery when discussing S&M. I believe it is a minority viewpoint within the BDSM communities but it as a very visible and very real viewpoint nonetheless.