How To Get Started: Questions asked by the Novice Dominant Woman:

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By doing these things, it will give you the courage to continue to grow as a dominant female. Let me encourage you not to turn back now. You know what the past was like when men dominated you. You can't go back to that. Therefore, be strong and forge ahead. Overcome your inhibitions and become the dominant female that you naturally are.

Q. Elise, I am writing because my husband wants me to. I am not inclined to be a dominant at all but my husband wants me to be. I have always viewed my participation in his sexual games/perversion as actually me being manipulated by my husband to get what he wants. In other words, if I boss him around I'm doing it because he wants me to, not because I am at all comfortable with it. You write that you are a natural dominant. I do not feel so inclined. I am not into control, which is why I'm a pretty happy woman (except for my unsatisfied husband). My controlling friends are all on Prozac to keep up with their insatiable need to control the lives of their husband, kids, and friends. They would really benefit from this. I love my dear husband but the lifestyle really turns me off. I don't care if I get my toenails polished or my floors polished. I do not find his proclivity appealing. I've really said what I need to. There it is. What is your recommendation to a woman in my position? Thanks for taking the time to respond.