How To Get Started: Questions asked by the Novice Dominant Woman:

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Which brings me back to my question, why did his confession cause you to become angry? You say it is because he jeopardized your happy marriage by manipulating you to become the fulfillment of his fantasy. I don't buy that explanation. There is a deeper problem here. Why did you become skeptical when he began to serve you? Could it be that you couldn't receive his servitude because of your negative attitude and skepticism? You immediately judged his motivation as being manipulative. That says a lot about you. You assumed that he was doing this strictly so you would become the fulfillment of some perverted sexual fantasy. It never entered into your mind that he might possibly desire to genuinely serve you. Why the immediate skepticism? If you can answer that question, you will understand why you became angry.

Let me take a shot at answering this question, for I have seen this before in other women. You were skeptical because of how you have been treated in the past by men. You once were a trusting young woman who was full of hope. But after years of being disappointed and manipulated by men (including your husband), your trust and hope has turned to cynicism and skepticism. You have come to believe that no man could possibly treat you that good without an ulterior motive. You have basically hardened your heart to the fact that men cannot be trusted.