Real Life Stories - January 2009 (best of Elise)

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It has been said that dating is the ultimate job audition. Obviously some people date just to have fun or in order to have a fulfilling social life, and sometimes romance happens when people least expect it. But when people are serious about finding a significant other, the date is like an audition where you sell yourself by showing the other person what an asset you can be to them. Most of the time people put on airs, erecting a phony façade in order to hide their true self because they fear their date will reject them. A man with submissive顺从 — willing to obey desires will often act macho because he thinks a woman wants that. Men will make phony claims about their careers and try to build up their careers to sound overly important in order to impress their female date. Then they will marry a woman who buys into the false façade and they will do a 180 after marriage and try to introduce the woman to female domination. And guess what? The woman is shocked because she was sold a false bill of goods and the man is disappointed that his wife is resistant to the female domination lifestyle. Well, perhaps if he had been honest from the beginning and had focused on the woman during the dating process and had dedicated himself to serving her during the dating process, she would have been more open to female domination (or maybe they would have realized they were not so compatible).