Real Stories - June/July 2020

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Your marriage is stronger than ever because you both have settled into your proper roles. So why do you find this “nerve-wracking”? Is it because you fear she will expose you to others or is it because you fear that you have lost control and will never get it back? I suspect it is the latter and that is why you keep referring to it as a game. For if it is a game, you are not really under her control but merely losing to her as an opponent. Once the game is over, you can just go back to being in charge. But if it is not a game but rather a lifestyle, than the truth is that your wife has taken all control from you and she is exercising control over you. She now holds the power and she is in charge and that is why you find this “nerve-wracking”. It is the reality that both frightens you and excites you.

It was a game when you were orchestrating the D&S. You were in control by topping her from below. But once she made the decision to truly take control, once her dominance was unleashed, it was no longer a game but an ever present reality that she is in charge and you are her feminized and obedient husband. She is thriving in the dominant role and your marriage is the better for it. Therefore you need to realize that it is not a game and you need to surrender to her. Once you accept the fact that this is a lifestyle and not a game, you will become more at peace with it. Best wishes.

From Walter J: