Real Life Stories - Entries for March 2014

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Living together meant I took control in other areas – every morning I would get him a shirt and tie out to wear to work and whenever we went out I would lay the clothes he was to wear out on the bed – by this time I was buying all his clothes – I didn’t think of it as being in control because my mum did the same for my dad – even though he likes to think he is the boss of the house. I started buying him more female clothes too and we even went back to his home town and bought a wedding dress – I loved the way the two women who ran the shop casually put him in dresses which we had chosen. All this time, whenever we made love he would say he was in control, even if he was dressed which I occasionally allowed – and to be honest I never thought much about me controlling the relationship, however, I noticed that I was making a lot of the decisions: buying the house and then organizing the wedding which I’d planned for December 2002, really made me realize that Colin was not as “in control” as he liked to think. He did nothing for either. Everything about our wedding day was organized by me including the gold knickers he wore to match my gold dress!

Then, just before our wedding, we had to buy two new cars. We visited a local dealer and I choose the two cars with very little input from Colin. I have to say at this stage that I work with children and I am a bit bossy!