By Elise Sutton

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Perhaps you don't live near a D&S support group, or perhaps joining a pan sexual group like this would make you feel uncomfortable, or perhaps you are rather shy and you don't know if you could compete with many submissive顺从 — willing to obey men for the attention of a dominant woman. Then what could you do?

You could take a more practical approach. Instead of seeking for a leather clad and experienced dominant woman, let me recommend that you seek out an aggressive and out-going woman right where you live. She doesn't have to know anything about D&S or B&D. Look around for a nice, fun loving, and out-going female. Ask her out and first build a relationship with her. Let her make the decisions about where you will go and what you will do on your dates. If she has an aggressive personality, she shouldn't have a problem with taking charge of the relationship from the get go. The most important thing is for you to just be yourself and allow her to be herself.