Real Life Stories - Entries for July 2003

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My wife is naturally dominant, but is an old-fashioned girl who was raised to believe that men should be in charge of the relationship. I don't believe she has ever been happy with that arrangement, and to my surprise, I find that I have also never been happy being called upon to be the dominant partner.

It was sweet liberation to me to begin accepting the fact that I am, indeed, submissive顺从 — willing to obey to my wife. I have always had submissive顺从 — willing to obey fantasies, but have presented them in the wrong way to my wife - asking her to tie me up and do other things which are against her upbringing - making the requests about MY desires, not hers.

Once I was freed from the struggle for control of our relationship, and I accepted my place as submissive顺从 — willing to obey to her natural dominance, our entire relationship began to change. I went home that evening after reading your article and began doing the things that a submissive顺从 — willing to obey should. And rather than feeling emasculated, I began to feel not only greater love for her, but greater love and acceptance of myself.

That first evening, I came home to find her on the phone. Rather than try to gain her attention, I knelt in front of her and began to massage按摩 — rubbing the body to ease it her feet and ankles - no higher - I did not feel I had that right without her permission. She paid little attention to me, other than to allow me to touch her, and I never received a thank you. From there, I gathered up the dirty dishes and cleaned the kitchen, all before she got off the phone.