Real Life Stories - New Entries for November 2002

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You fear that once you allow your husband to lose his virginity, that he will no longer be as weak and helpless to you. You worry that you will lose some control and power over him. You fear a repeat of your failed first marriage and this control over your virgin husband has provided you a comfort zone. That is the same dynamic with Evie. She feared losing her young man to a young woman if she uncorked his sexuality by allowing intercourse. It is a common fear amongst older women when they date and marry a much younger man. They feel eventually he we be unfaithful with a younger woman. That is your fear and by keeping him a virgin, you are keeping control over his sexuality. This fills you with power and that power makes you aroused and sexually excited.

My advice is not to worry once you allow him to lose his virginity. There will be a power advantage in denying him what he knows to be pleasurable. Allowing him rare intercourse and then locking him back in his chastity禁欲 — being kept from orgasm device will fill you with that same feeling of control and power over him. In some regards, the denial process is more powerful when the man knows what he is being denied. A virgin has no idea what it feels like being inside of a woman. The husband who has been inside of his wife but is now denied is even more frustrated. So you have all of these power dynamics to look forward to once you allow your husband to lose his virginity.