Ties That Bind: Questions about FemDom女性支配 — female domination and Romance

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Q. Hi Elise, I'm happily married to my husband for 12 years. At my husband request I started to read your web-site and a magazine he purchased called Whap. I enjoy being dominant for the most part but there are times when I just want to love my husband. He seems to always want me to dominate him. Any advice?

A. Yes, tell your husband to appreciate what he has in you and tell him to keep his mouth shut if he wants you to dominate him. A man needs both discipline and nurturing. Fortunately for him, that is the female nature. Women like to both dominate a man and love a man. Discipline and Love go hand and hand. Your husband is probably just too eager for the domination as it moves him more emotionally and sexually than does your sweet and nurturing side. In time, he will long for both.

For now, you need to stop him from toping you from below (controlling you from his submissive顺从 — willing to obey role). The best way to do this is to communicate to him how you need to express both your nurturing nature and your dominant nature. Tell him that just because you want to love on him, kiss him and hug him does not mean that you are incapable of being a Bitch. Chances are he is afraid that you will lose interest in dominating him so he views your soft side as being an adversary to your dominant side. This shows a lack of understanding on his part of the female nature.