Real Life Stories - September 2004

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Naturally it does! You like being denied and you like knowing that you are developing self-control, thanks to your wife’s training techniques. Self-control gives a man self-worth. The man who cannot control his urges is ultimately no better than an animal. The male who habitually masturbates is no different than the male dog that humps every leg in sight. Self-control sets man apart from the animal kingdom and self-control gives a man self-worth. But it takes a woman to instill in man that self-control through loving female authority and discipline.

I find it fascinating that your wife chose 21 days as your denial period. Do you realize that habits are formed in 21 days, be they good habits or bad habits? Psychological studies have shown that if a person does an act for 21 days, it will become a lifestyle. The same applies if you are trying to quit a particular habit. She is trying to instill a lifestyle of sexual self-control within you. If you are successful, there will be no need for a chastity禁欲 — being kept from orgasm device, unless she wants to use one for other reasons.

By displaying self-control in an area you find challenging, you are being obedient to your wife and are honoring her. You are demonstrating that you would rather obey her than obey your own desires. This takes focus and commitment on your behalf but your wife deserves nothing less. So the next time you are tempted to masturbate, think of your wife and choose to honor her and her authority. I do wish you both the best.