Power Exchange in the Bedroom: Questions about Strap-on穿戴式假阳具 — a toy penis worn in a harness Play

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The real question is, do you think this is my right? Do you have any suggestions for how I might get what I need without going to this extreme? Thank you for your help, and thank you again for your marvelous site.

A. A submissive顺从 — willing to obey male should be willing to open himself for exploration at the hands of his trusted Mistress女主人 — a woman who leads a submissive partner. Perhaps there is a reason why he is against trying strap-on穿戴式假阳具 — a toy penis worn in a harness play. Maybe he equates it to the negative experience of a prostate exam or some other medical procedure he has experienced. Your challenge is to make strap-on穿戴式假阳具 — a toy penis worn in a harness play erotic and enjoyable for him so he gives up his resistance.

You could tie him up and gag him so he can't use his safe word安全词 — a word that means stop and then carefully and erotically explore his body. Make your way to his anus肛门 — the rear opening and very gently insert a lubricated finger into him. If you do this, only take him with your latex乳胶 — shiny rubber used for tight clothes glove covered fingers. Do not use a dildo假阳具 — a toy shaped like a penis on him. Tie him, gag him and erotically take him with your fingers only (use lots of lubrication). Be sexy and sensual while you are "finger fucking" him so that he enjoys it. Your goal will be to get him to relax so he surrenders to you. If the finger fucking goes well, the next time you could use a slender butt plug肛塞 — a toy worn in the anus. If he accepts that, then you could eventually work him up to a dildo假阳具 — a toy shaped like a penis.