Real Stories - Predominant 2011, Issue 2

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But while you are dominating him through objectification, treating him as an “it” will stir your dominance and “he” will sense that coming from you which will in effect make him view himself as an “it”. That’s when objectification will stimulate his submissive顺从 — willing to obey triggers and thus release a deeper sense of submission and inferiority within him, which will release a deeper sense of dominance and superiority within you.

Then you can take those feelings over into your day to day lives. He may not always be an “it” (that would be out of balance and unhealthy) but when he is a “he”, that feeling of being beneath you will influence him so he always knows his place within the marriage. It’s hard for a husband to argue with his wife about finances, doing chores and other family matters when he has just spent time being used a footstool or a shoe rack. Keep up the good work and stay in touch.

From Gus A:

Dear Ms Sutton: I have recently been directed to your website by my girlfriend of three years.

Up until recently we had what I call a fairly regular relationship where sex was really only for my enjoyment and viewed by my girlfriend as a chore (she told me about this later). When I met her she was as quiet as a mouse and very, very feminine. Without wishing to denigrate my girlfriend's performance in bed she was always very passive. This all changed when by pure chance I went down on her one night.