Real Stories - Predominant 2012, Issue 3

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For me spanking is more of an erotic impulse but she views it as a punishment for me. Yet she is the one who gets the sexual pleasure from it. All I get is pain. This sure hasn’t worked out the way I thought it would but I guess I can’t complain since I was the one who introduced this to her.

Elise’s response:

Robert, your situation is rather common. The male is usually the one who introduces D&S to the female because the need to be disciplined drives the male to seek out domination from his female partner. Quite often the male desire to be dominated becomes more robust as the male ages. This is because your biological sex drive has diminished with age but your submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature has gotten stronger, thus your submissiveness has risen to the forefront of your sexuality. It was always there but when you were younger you channeled it into other avenues.

Your wife is a dominant woman but she was oblivious to the thrills of D&S until you introduced it to her. Like a lot of women, she was hesitant but once she tasted of its power, she became aroused when she disciplined you because it was an activity where her dominant nature could be unleashed and expressed within the sexual realm. She was already accustomed to dominating you in other areas of your relationship but now she has discovered the joys of D&S.