Real Stories - September/October 2007

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D&S sessions can take on a life of their own, especially in a group setting, and that is when the female must be on guard to insure that nothing takes place that would violate the limits of her submissive顺从 — willing to obey. It is perfectly Ok to challenge and expand limits but it sounds like these women did more than just slightly expand limits that night, they launched into the deep.

Having said that, I do not necessarily take your side, Curtis, in this disagreement you have with your wife. I take no sides but rather I encourage the two of you to communicate better with each other prior to attending these socials so you both know where the other is in their D&S space that night. Let’s face it, some nights a male is feeling extra submissive顺从 — willing to obey and some nights a woman is feeling extra dominant. These things must be understood upfront when you are going to be playing with others.

I think what hurt your wife the most was probably how you handled the situation. Instead of refusing to obey her and leaving the room abruptly, perhaps you should have asked for permission (with humility) to speak with your Mistress女主人 — a woman who leads a submissive partner in private. That would have allowed her the chance to dismiss you from the game in private instead of being embarrassed in front of the other women. So I would encourage you and your Mistress女主人 — a woman who leads a submissive partner to negotiate that if you are ever feeling uneasy about a D&S activity during one of these socials, that you can signal her that you need to speak with her in private where you can call upon her mercy.