Real Stories - May 2005

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By way of introduction, I am a single male in my forties who was involved in a female-assertive/male-passive relationship for about five years. (In this age of acronyms, may I coin one of my own? Female-assertive/male-passive = FAMP, it will save some typing...). Anna, my partner, was three years my junior. We met by happenstance, while simultaneously vacationing at a resort, and after a long-distance courtship of about two years, I relocated to share her home, and we were briefly engaged to be married. Although our relationship did not become permanent, I thought some of our experiences would be of interest. I have of course changed the names of the players to protect anonymity, and altered some minor details of the experiences to make them more readable. But everything that follows is indeed true.

Embarrassing Moments

Anna was a self-minded and determined person who did not scruple to assert herself, even in the most public of places. Though I doubt she had an innate desire to be sensually dominant, some of the embarrassing situations she created were stimulating, certainly to me, but perhaps to her as well. It may be difficult to understand how the feeling of humiliation羞辱 — shame given on purpose can be erotic; how the tunnel vision and sinking feeling of blushing, and the withering feeling of defenselessness, can be arousing. But to some, these feelings can indeed be very exciting and addictive. Among my most memorable experiences are these.