Q&A Forum - April 2013

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You say your husband needs firmness and he responds to your firmness. It is obvious from your description that Corporal Sessions take your husband to subspace. The result is that he becomes more docile but he should also become more attentive. Perhaps you are overdoing the severity of his discipline. Perhaps you could be firm without the sessions being so intense. I don’t know and you will have to experiment and communicate with your husband to find that which works. It is obvious that he needs regular discipline sessions and he responds to your discipline sessions but perhaps you need to find that balance of love and punishment, nurturing and discipline. It is okay for him to be docile toward you but he needs to also be attentive to your needs.

As far as methods of disciplining a man that requires little effort from the woman, we have examined some of these methods in the past. I receive quite a bit of inquiry about “The Horse”, which a woman named Lee shared with me and I shared her method in both my book and on my site. Lee even shared some photos and directions on how to construct “The Horse”. This is advanced stuff that is usually incorportated only if the husband has demonstrated some masochistic tendencies. Never forget that all D&S must be consensual but trust me, a lot of men would love it if their wives would order them to construct devices and equipment that the woman will utilize to punish them.