Q&A Forum - April 2019

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There is a progression and there needs to be a progression or else the relationship will become stale. However, that progression will vary from couple to couple. The woman needs to grow in her dominance just like the male needs to grow in his submission. D&S activities can assist that growth but we grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It is what is happening on the inside of our natures that matters. The externals will vary and some people will view those externals as being wild or mild or kinky or tame or perhaps even perverted but the bottom line is that the value of any D&S activity depends on the valuation the couple sets upon that activity.

D&S is not like a drug where the body needs something stronger in order to achieve the same kind of “high”. There may be people who are out of balance and who are not grounded in their D&S relationship, thus D&S can become a kind of sexual addiction. But that can happen with any form of sexuality. There are people who are addicted to intercourse and who “sleep around” and are emotionally unfulfilled due to a sexual addiction. There are people who are addicted to pornography who cannot relate to a real relationship because reality can never match fantasy. There are many forms of sexual addiction and D&S is not immune from this.