Q&A Forum - April 2009 (Best of Elise)

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Q. Ms. Sutton, I introduced my wife to the concept of a female-led marriage almost a year ago now, and our relationship has definitely improved because of it. We don't have things perfect yet, as at times I still try to 'top from below', but we're moving in a good direction. Thanks.

One side effect I seem to notice with myself, about female dominated marriages, is that I become so smitten by my wife and just want to spend every available minute with her and serving her. When she playfully teases and denies me I go crazy. All I can think about is her and when I get to be with her again, and see her, and spend time with her. I become so entranced that I hate any interference or competition that might get in the way of my spending time with her.

She is very involved with our children, family, work, church, community, etc. With her involvement in so many different and worthy causes, I really have to fight for her time and attention. Problems have arose because I've become jealous of time I was supposed to get with her, but that she had to devote to something else. I know it adds guilt to her because she wants to please everybody and do 'everything for everyone'.