Q&A Forum - August 2011 (best of Elise)

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You are a dominant woman and you have dominant energy that when you release it via D&S sessions in the bedroom, you and your husband will both experience many wonderful and intimate FemDom女性支配 — female domination experiences. Remember, you need this as much as he does. Don’t view this lifestyle as purely something he needs. His submission is what will satisfy you as a woman; sexually, emotionally and spiritually. If you will embrace your dominance and go with the flow of your dominant energy, and if you will feed off of his submissive顺从 — willing to obey energy, the passion will be reignited.

Passion cannot be produced through willpower alone. There are those psychological and emotional triggers that will generate passion. For example, your husband may have a certain fetish恋物 — a strong sexual focus on one thing that will ignite his passion, which in turn may ignite your passion once your dominant energy senses his submissive顺从 — willing to obey energy. I use the word “energy” but energy is another way to say “passion”. Your passion will feed off of his passion, and vice versa.

Therefore, think back to what D&S activities would fuel his passion. Was it your leather outfits? Maybe you can’t fit into your leather pants but I bet you can still wear those sexy leather boots (if you have a pair). Maybe you need to invest in a pair. Or maybe it was not the outfit but a certain activity that ignited passion between the two of you.