Q&A Forum - August 2011 (best of Elise)

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There are many ways you can reignite the passion. And once that passion is reignited, build upon it by giving your D&S sessions a high priority in your life.

Finally, if you are struggling with your body image, do something about it. I know it is not easy but there are so many programs available. Don’t be embarrassed because most people struggle with weight and body image. The American diet makes it difficult for people to keep the weight off. So join a gym or join a group such as Weight Watchers and set reasonable goals. Don’t worry about losing 20 or 30 pounds. Start out with 5. Set out to lose 5 pounds and when you achieve that goal, set another goal. Before long, you may find yourself back inside those leather pants and that leather catsuit连体紧身衣 — a tight suit that covers the whole body. And once you lose those first 5 pounds, your husband better watch out because your dominant energy will definitely enjoy a boost from how you feel about yourself. Again, set small goals and you will achieve them and that will make you feel good about yourself.

Regardless, your husband loves you and he will submit to you because of who you are on the inside. Your dominant nature is within just as his submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature is within. The passion will come when you both give this lifestyle a high priority and when you view D&S as romantic and not as work. I do wish you both the best.

Q. Elise, I have some practical cleanliness questions. What needs to be cleaned, when, and how?