Q&A Forum - August/September 2019 (Best of Elise)

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I am curious about this because, while I am submissive顺从 — willing to obey to my wife, she will sometimes ask me to do a chore that I am not immediately ready to do. I was thinking that if she took me to a she-male Dominatrix女支配者 — a dominant woman that perhaps this would have a profound effect on me and give my wife enormous power over me.

A. You need to learn from the example of the husband mentioned in the entry above. He serves his wife out of his love and devotion to her. He sees her as being worthy of his obedience. If you do not do the chores that she wants you to do it is because you are too self-centered and not enough wife-centered. Or you could just be a lazy male.

D&S activities might give you that extra motivation you need or perhaps transfer you mentally to subspace where you are more eager to serve. The D&S can be used to properly train the lazy male or the self-centered male but only if you are willing to be trained. At some point, you must make the decision that you exist to serve your wife. Obedience cannot be forced, it must come from your willing heart. Obedience is a decision made by you, it is an act of your will and while it can be trained and motivated, it cannot be imposed.