Q&A Forum - August 2004

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As far as your co-worker goes, she can tease you and play these mental D&S games with you because she knows you are married and that removes the likelihood that you would pursue a relationship with her. She gets a kick out of your submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature and she likes to tease you. It fulfills a part of her dominant nature. That doesn’t mean she wants a relationship with you. If you both were single, I seriously doubt she would refer to you as her “little bitch”. So continue to serve this woman in the workplace but cast out those negative thoughts toward your wife. If you cannot, then you may need to find another breakfast and lunch partner. Your wife had better come first in your life. You chose to marry her so you owe her that.

Q. Dear Ms. Sutton, I first want to thank you for your informative website. It has helped to reduce some of the tension that occasionally appeared in our marriage. For example, my wife would ask me to do something, but if it was easier for her to do it, I’d resist. As you might expect, this usually resulted in both of us becoming upset. After reading your article on introducing your wife to this lifestyle, I decided to follow your advice and not disagree or argue when she asked me to do something. It has made both of us happier and less stressed out.