Q&A Forum - August 2004

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Even though I ask for permission, I get the impression that she believes that I have to climax for us to have had a successful lovemaking session. (She’s never said no or asked me to hold off.) It’s as if she thinks the only possible conclusion to making love is for the man to climax. Should I be concerned about this? If so, what should I do? Or is this something that will naturally become less of an occurrence as her dominance grows? As it’s only been about a month since I started down this path, perhaps I should let things run their course. However, I’m concerned that her upbringing and our past approach to sex will prevent her from going beyond this point. As my wife appears to thoroughly enjoy the changes in my behavior so far, I’d like to make sure that we have continued success in the future. Any advice that you may have is appreciated.

A. Relax and allow your wife to grow. You have done a marvelous job thus far so keep up the good work and don’t ruin it by moving too fast. Sounds like she is loving this change in your relationship. These things will take care of themselves in due time. Your wife naturally thinks that the conclusion of sex is when you both orgasm高潮 — the sexual climax. That is how it has always been in her life. She wants to make you happy because you are making her happy so she wants you to have an orgasm高潮 — the sexual climax during sex.