Q&A Forum - August 2007 (The best of Elise)

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All of this is the result of what I would call taking several stages. Reflecting back over these stages, I can see that no matter how many times I try to step away or step back from the situation, I always come back... and she is always ready to take even more from me.

I recently verbalized this to her. Last month I spoke up and said, "It's not fair." When she asked me what I meant, I responded, "You know I can't resist your domination”. She lifted up my chin and looked right into my eyes and said, "You can't stay away. You can't resist. You can't win. You can't control yourself. You can't change what's happened." Then she added the question, "Is that what you wanted to say?" I replied, "Yes ma'am."

For the past few weeks, I have felt very differently. I have begun to accept what seems to me to be an unavoidable fact... that I am submissive顺从 — willing to obey to my wife and that this is the way I am and the way we will live from now on.