Q&A Forum - December 2007 (The best of Elise)

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So it can be done but we are talking the exception and not the rule. And the couples that have gone to this level in orgasm高潮 — the sexual climax denial have done it in stages. It did not happen overnight. But if you have gone a year with little or no problems, than I would say you can probably go permanent if that is what your wife also wants. But is permanent really permanent? Just because the two of you make the decision to go permanent, there still is always the chance she can change her mind at a later time. Nevertheless, if you both find the mind games and the fantasy to be exciting, she should tell you that it is permanent while she leaves her future options open. That way for the immediate future it will have a powerful effect on your psyche and she can get the eroticism out of it, yet for the long-term she will still have the right to end your permanent denial. Again, the terminology of “permanent denial” can have different meanings for different couples. It is never a good idea to hold to a strict definition of the word “permanent” no matter what the activity. No one knows what the future holds so that is why it is always prudent to leave your options open.

Q. Dear Elise, First let me thank you for your website, book and publication. It's so nice to have a place where one can find intelligent, thoughtful discussion. I'm 52 years old and have been aware of my dominant nature all my life. I have recently run into a situation that I find confusing.