Q&A Forum - December 2009 (The best of Elise)

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A. The moment came, you did not seize it and now it has passed. That happens with this lifestyle. Your wife’s dominant nature was unleashed by her becoming the breadwinner and you being transformed into her househusband家庭主夫 — a husband who keeps the house. This process no doubt excited your wife and she wanted more power and more control. Her desire to dominate you manifested itself into her urge to urinate on you. She wanted to feel the power of humiliating you in this manner.

However, when you refused her request, that was like throwing a blanket over her internal fire and it put out that flame in that area. She is still exploring her dominance but that particular desire has passed. Now that you have come to her and requested to be urinated on, she is refusing you because that desire within her is not there at this time. If she did it now, she would not be gaining any pleasure out of it. Back when she requested it, the mood was there and the desire was burning within her. Too bad you refused her because I suspect it would have been a powerful experience for the both of you, especially your wife. The urge may hit her again at a later time or it may manifest itself in another way. When it does, go with it. But for now, let it go. She is not interested so you must obey her wishes.