Q&A Forum - December 2011

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As with any change there will be growing pains so all couples need to count the cost. There will be uncomfortable moments for both the woman and the man as society turns its collective nose up in the air at your unorthodox marriage. There will be paper work snafus and extra documentation required, as most institutions will assume you have taken his last name. You will be asked for your maiden name but he will never be asked. Until more couples follow your example, there will be inconveniences. But as more men take on the names of their wives, institutions will be forced to adapt. There will be growing pains with this change but I am sure you view these as minor inconveniences when compared to the societal statement you are making.

I've been married for over two decades and much has changed in our society over that time. I admire you for taking this stand and I would love to see more women do the same. No man could argue with your rational. All that men can point to for keeping the status quo is tradition. Your reasoning for the change is logical and intelligent and not based on radical feminism. I hope more women will follow your example. For if women make this request, I guarantee you lots of men will agree to it. Deep down, the submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature of man wants this to happen. Best wishes and I wish you continued success in life and your marriage.