The Disciplined Life: Questions about Discipline, Spankings and Corporal Punishment

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Q. Hi Elise, Could you give me suggestions in "disciplining" a submissive顺从 — willing to obey male? I know that my husband needs this and I want this relationship to work. Thank you very much.

A. When disciplining a submissive顺从 — willing to obey man, start out slow but also be willing to experiment. Start out with an old fashioned over the knee膝上打屁股 — a spanking across the lap spanking with a hairbrush. Dress sexy, seduce him, than order him naked across your lap. Start out with soft blows, rotate between cheeks, always wait at least five seconds between blows, and than build up to harder blows. Caress his cheeks during and after the spanking.

Purchase a paddle or a whip and experiment with it. Always start out light and build up to harder and more severe. Give him a safe word安全词 — a word that means stop that he can use if he is in too much pain. It will take time to build him up to where he can receive a real hard whipping or paddling but his endurance will increase the more you discipline him.

Q. Dear Elise, My wife wants you to know that the information she has found on your site to be most useful in our marriage. I guess you can tell, I am the sub顺从者 — a submissive person-hubby of my wife.

Since I seem to be having a problem understanding the difference between discipline and punishment, my wife "suggested" that I write and ask you. From what takes place, it seems to me that discipline and punishment are almost one in the same. Would you please be so kind as to explain the difference to me? Possibly some examples of the two might prove useful.