Q&A Forum - February 2010 (The best of Elise)

Screen 1 of 33

Q. Is it ok to push just for pushing's sake? When my husband and I began to delve into this way of life, I found out many things about myself and about him. I soon came to realize that I what I thought were boundaries and limits for either or both of us, were not.

Each time we would take more steps toward his submission, my dominance, and our actions would change changes our life, and I would think that this was it, that we had reached a point where we'd gone 'far enough.' Only to find out later that I wasn't satisfied with what seemed like such a reach before. Then, I would push matters further, bringing us to a new place. This repeats itself, Elise.

Now, I sit today and think. He is nothing like what he used to be. He is wonderful and I love him dearly. I am nothing like what I used to be. I have become open and strong and have accomplished so much. Everything is wonderful. But again, I'm not content. He practically worships崇拜侍奉 — adoring service me and yet I'm not content. Is this wrong? Should I just be satisfied at some point? Or does the fact that I want to push indicate there is more for us?