Q&A Forum - February 2010 (The best of Elise)

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Whatever the reason, this is who you are and what you desire sexually (at least on the surface). Regardless of a woman’s appearance and outward characteristics, it will ultimately be a woman’s attitude and inner nature that will touch your submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature at its core. If you can find a woman who has both the outward and the inward, even the better as the outward will no doubt open you up more for deeper submissive顺从 — willing to obey exploration of the inner. But don’t limit yourself simply based on the outer. Like I said, the outer is all surface and while exciting in the beginning it will not be sustained once familiarity sets in. The internal is what is eternal. Therefore, seek out a woman with a dominant attitude, regardless of her outward characteristics. Your fantasy woman might be a Caucasian but your reality woman might be totally different. Take care.

Q. Hi Elise. I'm a submissive顺从 — willing to obey male. I have just recently been able to accept the fact that I am submissive顺从 — willing to obey to females. I have denied the feelings I know I've had since I was a child. I fantasize about being dominated by women. How do I turn my idle fantasies into reality? I want to realize my dreams. Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated.

A. First of all you need to separate the fantasy from the reality. I devoted the final chapter of “Female Domination” to the importance of staying rooted in reality (and I further built upon this in "The FemDom女性支配 — female domination Experience").