Q&A Forum - February 2017

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Q. Dear Ms Sutton, I enjoyed reading your book it was very informative. The one question I had and it seems to be prevalent in all writings in this area, is why is it always explained as adversarial?

Expressions like "I decided that I would love to have the upper hand in my marriage” and others are quite common in your writing and others. My wife seems to think this is quite demeaning to the male partner, and I must admit I have no reasonable argument to come back with.

I don't know maybe that is the way it has to be. It is her biggest hang up about this issue. If you had any thoughts I would appreciate it. I find your writings to be very clear and straightforward.

A. That quote from my book was a quote from a woman named Pamela when she was talking about her experience with strap-on穿戴式假阳具 — a toy penis worn in a harness play, but I understand what you are asking. I do talk about women using their assets and their female power to their advantage, and I am a big believer in that but not to the detriment of the male but rather to the benefit of both the female and the male.