Q&A Forum - February 2018

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Q. Dear Ms. Sutton, Thank you for continuing to explore this lifestyle with your passion and your expertise. Every time I think I fully understand myself and my own feelings about female domination, you show me that there is more to explore and consider.

I honestly believed that Searching for Wanda was not going to apply to me. I have had some darker fantasies, but mostly I am drawn to the softer side of feminine power. I don't know why, but if faced with the stereotypical leather clad domme女主人 — a dominant woman with the whip, it becomes more of a challenge for me. It's as if I want to see how long I can endure what she wants to do. I don't fight her, per se, I think I fight myself, but challenge is the best way to describe it. The soft feminine side, however, lace and nylons丝袜 — sheer stockings and the woman confident in her own femininity simply melts me. I just want to please her, and I stop thinking about myself.

So I wanted to read Searching for Wanda because I love your work, and it was more from the intellectual perspective, being able to sympathize with the situations, but not really being a member of the group. The interview you had with the married couple, Michelle and Gary, has changed some of my own self-assessments. Her manipulation of her husband's guilt over what excites him, and the dichotomy of the good woman and cruel dominatrix女支配者 — a dominant woman really struck a nerve.