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A. Absolutely. Just restrict your play to activity that he can handle. You might have to cut out some of the more strenuous activities, but I know men who have had quadruple bypass surgery who's wives still didn't let up on them. Domination is more of the mind than the body anyway. If he can still orally service you, use a vibrator震动器 — a toy that buzzes or a dildo假阳具 — a toy shaped like a penis on you, if he can lay on a bed and receive your strap-on穿戴式假阳具 — a toy penis worn in a harness, and if he can still receive spankings and whippings, than I would say you are in good shape. None of these activities are very strenuous. Intercourse with the man on top is much more strenuous then any of these activities. So you are in better shape by being in a D&S relationship than if you were in a more traditional relationship.

Also, I know the urge will be there to nurture him back to health. That's good and by all means do so. However, be careful not to allow him to order you around. Stay on top of him. Maybe he can't do the physical chores that he once did, but I am sure he can still run a vacuum cleaner, do dishes, and other light chores. Stay as dominant as ever and continue to control him. Just exchange strenuous activities for lighter ones.

Q. Elise, I was in the process of denying my husband for a month. However, during one of our play sessions he had an orgasm高潮 — the sexual climax (gasp). I didn't see it coming and he claims that it was an accident. Should I punish him for this and what kind of punishment would fit the crime?