Q&A Forum - January 2009 (best of Elise)

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Q. Dear Ms Sutton, I have enjoyed your site and feel you provide a valuable service to both the dominant and submissive顺从 — willing to obey side of the relationship. I have a question for you. In thinking about the inner need for some to men to submit to their wives - in some ways it seems simply that the male is looking to replicate his childhood relationship with his mother. He ends up in a very similar place - being totally dependent on his new mother (wife).

The tools and lifestyle are very similar: discipline, lack of financial resources, no need/opportunity to make decisions. The dominant wife has similar traits to a mother in terms of responsibility for a dependent coupled with the freedoms of adulthood. What are your thoughts on this please?

A. There is a great deal of truth in your analysis, however what needs to be understood is the motivating force behind the male desire for loving female authority. The male need for discipline and nurturing from the loving hands of a woman is based in the spiritual, emotional and social necessities of the inner nature of man, and these needs never go away. Just because a male reaches adulthood, that does not diminish his necessity for loving female authority.