Q&A Forum - January 2014

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Therefore, think back to what D&S activities would fuel his passion. Was it your leather outfits? Maybe you can’t fit into your leather pants but I bet you can still wear those sexy leather boots (if you have a pair). Maybe you need to invest in a pair. Or maybe it was not the outfit but a certain activity that ignited passion between the two of you.

Another way to reignite passion is to take a vacation together. Get away, just the two of you and fall back in love with each other. Take a vacation that is not full of activities and sight-seeing. Take a vacation where the two of you will have lots of time to be alone in your hotel room where you can play. Get a room with a big tub so he can give you a candle lit bubble bath. Bring some of your D&S toys with you, like your strap-on穿戴式假阳具 — a toy penis worn in a harness and maybe a whip or a paddle. It could be that a change of scenery and the removal of the stress of life can reignite that passion.

If a vacation is not feasible right now, do something romantic at home. You can do the bubble bath at home. Another idea, since you enjoyed my books, underline the stories and the passages that you find to be arousing and have him do the same (using a different color highlighter) and the next time you discipline him, read those passages to him while he is bound. Read those passages in-between each loving blow from your whip or paddle. (This idea was mentioned in my first book when a couple, Crystal and John, shared how they did this with the book “Venus in Furs”).