Q&A Forum - January 2015

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I don't find anything wrong with allowing the woman to be in charge, and I actually adore the idea. I find it very enticing and a big turn-on. But I don't understand why I feel like I'm doing something wrong if I engage in a Female Domination relationship with her. Something tells me that I'm going to resent having done it. I tell myself "would a real man submit to his wife, and be her little boy.”

These thoughts skim through my mind all the time. It is so frustrating, and I don't understand why I feel this way. Why can't I just bring myself to admit that I want to be submissive顺从 — willing to obey towards her, and not have to deal with these thoughts and doubts? When you interviewed couples for your book, did you come across men with the same issue? How do you think I should deal with these mixed feelings, and is there a way that I can get rid of my feelings of apprehension?

A. I think further evidence of the societal evolution that is taking place is how many women are beginning to initiate FemDom女性支配 — female domination relationships. As you know from reading my book, “Female Domination”, it is usually the man who introduces his female partner to FemDom女性支配 — female domination because men usually become aware of their submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature prior to women becoming aware of their desire to dominate, and usually it is the submissive顺从 — willing to obey nature of man that seduces the dominant nature of woman. That has been the pattern over the past half century in the western civilized world.