Q&A Forum - January 2018

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I try to treat others as I would like to be treated myself, so I find it hard to treat him in what seems to be a disrespectful way. The thing is, I know that is what he wants, but I can't always bring myself to do it. I worry that if I treat him without respect I will eventually no longer respect him, and that this will destroy our relationship.

I guess my question then is how I can overcome the hesitancy I feel in taking on a more dominant role and how I can make him adopt a truly submissive顺从 — willing to obey role where I dictate the pace of our progress towards a more femdom女性支配 — female domination lifestyle.

Many thanks in advance for any insight you can provide, and for the advice you have already provided through your site.

A. Thank you for such an honest and open letter. It sounds like you are really growing as a dominant woman but you are unsure of yourself because this is so new to your thought process and how you were raised. It also doesn’t help that your husband seems to be pushing you a little too fast. That is the biggest mistake men make when introducing this lifestyle to their wife. Once the wife agrees to experiment with a few aspects of the lifestyle, the man gets excited and expects her to embrace all of his fantasies. What can happen, if the man is not careful, is that he can turn his budding Dom off to the lifestyle and he will have stifled her growth.