Q&A Forum - January 2020

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Q. Hi Elise. I really appreciate all the work you do on behalf of feminism and women. However, when it comes to female domination and dominance and submission I can’t help but think that the women are engaged in the exploitation of their husbands and boyfriends in order to get what they want. It seems like the women who use D/s in the bedroom are engaged in the ill-treatment of the men in their lives.

A. Exploitation is ‘the utilization of another person for selfish purposes’. Ill-treatment is ‘to treat someone unkindly.’ So in order for your question to be valid, you would have to discern another person’s heart and judge the intent of their heart.

Loving Female Authority (LFA) has nothing to do with exploitation or treating someone unkindly and the outward FemDom女性支配 — female domination activities have nothing to do with exploitation or treating someone unkindly unless the person’s heart is full of malice. But can't a person’s heart be full of malice within a vanilla普通性爱 — sex without kink or traditional relationship? And if that is the case, can we not conclude that the lifestyle or the bedroom practices have nothing to do with whether a person is exploiting someone or treating someone unkindly? It all comes back to what is in the heart.