Q&A Forum - January 2020

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A. The key to all of this is for you to have fun, enjoy life, and enjoy being a woman. View the D&S as an extension of your sex life and not merely a necessary task to train your husband. Sex is for the woman’s pleasure and your husband wants to please you. He wants to submit to you.

It will not always be smooth because he has insecurities and you have insecurities and D&S can force some of those hidden emotional issues to surface. But the good news is that once they surface, the D&S can also cause healing as long as all discipline is balanced with love and nurturing. It really is a beautiful lifestyle that can produce harmony.

Even if your initial motivation is to do this for your husband (nothing wrong with that) it never fails that the woman will usually later say that she enjoys it more than her husband because of the better sex life, the more intense orgasms高潮 — the sexual climax, the more obedient husband, and the social freedom that few married women can enjoy.

It may be easier said than done, but try not to view your discipline sessions with your husband as “work” else your dominant and sexual energy will not flow from you. Plus your husband will sense when you are going through the motions, thus his submissive顺从 — willing to obey energy will not respond to you, making the session unfulfilling for the both of you.