Q&A Forum - January 2003

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Encourage your wife by serving her in ways that are pleasing to her. Show her the benefits of this lifestyle and not so much the kinky things. The kinky stuff can come later but to most women, the idea of a man serving her needs is what is most appealing about this lifestyle. It sounds like you are going about this in the right way with helping her around the house. But talking about cuckolding and the more advanced stuff is not wise at this time. If you showed her my site, why not ask her to show you a story that excited her? Forget about what excites you or what turns her off. Have her show you a story that excites her and then begin to serve her in a similar manner. This will give you an idea of where her dominance is and will give you an idea on how to draw it out.

Keep in mind that true submission is in serving your wife in ways that are pleasing to her. Put her needs first and you will begin to draw out her dominance. It may take time and it may not manifest itself in ways that you desire, but if you would be willing to serve her how she likes to be served, then you will find that she will be more open to this lifestyle.

Q. Dear Ms Elise, Thank you so much for your web page and for the information you provide and the time you take to keep it updated regularly. I have found reading your site to be the most informative and intelligent information on Female dominance on the web.