Q&A Forum - July 2012

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A. In a situation like yours, it is even more critical that you communicate your feelings to your girlfriend, prior to, during and after a D&S session. A safe word安全词 — a word that means stop is a must and you need to use that safe word安全词 — a word that means stop if you begin to experience an anxiety attack. I would advise against her placing you in any kind of restrictive bondage捆绑 — being tied or restrained and she should never leave you alone during a D&S session. I would also advise against the use of hoods or gags.

You need to feel secure so she should focus on those activities that combine FemDom女性支配 — female domination with nurturing. Instead of binding you and administering a corporal punishment session, she should instead experiment with erotic, over the knee膝上打屁股 — a spanking across the lap or over the lap spankings as a means of physical discipline. If she experiments with strap-on穿戴式假阳具 — a toy penis worn in a harness play it is important that she coaches your breathing as she penetrates you and she should place you in a position where she can maintain eye contact with you.

I would also suggest that you treat your anxiety attacks both mentally and biologically. Counseling might be a good idea to determine why you have these attacks. Is it a phobia or is it a chemical imbalance? There are drugs on the market that can help you manage these attacks.