Q&A Forum - July 2019

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A. This is where communication comes into play. This is part of the exploration process. The two of you are still trying to discover what pushes the other’s buttons. This is a natural part of learning about each other.

If he cannot tell you what kind of words excite him (maybe he is too embarrassed or he thinks you will become upset), have him bookmark a story on the Internet or have him underline it in a book or magazine so you can read it. And you do the same thing. Use the stories on my site and tell him which ones turn you on and have him tell you which ones turn him on. That way you can read the story when he is not there, which takes away from the uncomfortable feelings and/or the pressure and/or the shock value. Perhaps you will want to subscribe to my e-zine Predominant which includes additional stories each issue as well as the story archives. I am sure you both can find stories on there that excite you and that you can share with each other.