Q&A Forum - June 2012

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Q. Ms Sutton, I read with great interest your take on female sadism in your last book. I find that particular topic to be fascinating. I think my interest in female domination is the dissimilarity between the moods of a woman. Billy Joel wrote a song, "She's Always A Woman To Me" where he talks about that dichotomy of the female personality. "She can kill with a smile, She can wound with her eyes...She'll promise you more than the Garden of Eden, She casually cuts you and laughs while your bleeding." Then there's the line that goes "She is frequently kind and She's suddenly cruel ." That is the line in the song that came to my mind when I was reading your explanation of female sadism.

To me, that song explains why men long to be dominated by a woman. We all know that girls are made of "sugar and spice and everything nice" and that women are soft, tender, loving and kind. When I was a boy I would always run to Mom because she was so caring and nurturing. I think most men recognize the unconditional love that women seem to have in their hearts. However, as we become men and begin to interact with the female gender, we soon recognize that slightly sadistic side of women and we become aroused by it. We ponder, "How can this soft and beautiful person have such a cruel and controlling side to her personality?" That is the mystery of woman that men have been unable to solve.