Q&A Forum - June 2012

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A. Oh the poor baby! He has an erection after getting out of the shower and he needs some relief? What a lame excuse. Sweetheart, his erection will go down on its own once he gets his mind on his job. You should be flattered if he can't keep his mind off of you throughout the day and this causes him to get an erection. This shows that the denial process is working beautifully. You are dominating him and his thoughts, even when he is away from you.

The next time he comes to you with an erection and whines that he needs relief before he heads out to work, why not help him to "get it down"? Make him march back into the shower and have him stand in there for few minutes in freezing cold water. That will correct the problem.

If it were me and my husband whined about having to wait a week between orgasms高潮 — the sexual climax, I would say "Ok sweetie, of course you need some relief but first let me get some lubrication" and I would take a small dab of Ben-gay and jerk him off with that. I'm not advocating that you do this but I promise you he would never again ask for a "hand-job".

Perhaps a kinder approach (in addition to the cold shower) would be to simply tell him that as long as he demonstrates that he can do a satisfactory job with his chores each week, then he will be allowed his weekly relief on your pre-determined day. But if his servitude ever wanes, then you may have to extend his denial time longer. And it he can't be trusted, there is always the option of putting him in a chastity禁欲 — being kept from orgasm device.