Q&A Forum - June 2013 (Best of Elise)

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I have been married now for twenty six years and have always been the so called submissive顺从 — willing to obey partner in our marriage. About four weeks ago my husband was short of underpants as he got ready for work one morning, so I suggested he wear a pair of mine and you can guess the reaction I got from him, so I dared him to wear them and to my surprise he put them on and left for work. When he returned home later that day he actually admitted to me that he had struggled through the day because of the knickers and was desperate to get them off.

It was not until we went to bed that night that I touched on the subject and to my surprise he said that the knickers had made him feel very submissive顺从 — willing to obey, I was very surprised that this man, the dominant male I have lived with all this time had felt submissive顺从 — willing to obey.

As the days went by he became very attentive and cuddled me quite often, then one evening he admitted that the thought of being forced to wear knickers, do house work and be controlled by me was exciting to him.

This is where I need advice, I have been the wife in our relationship for so long I am finding it difficult to know where to start or how to take control, even now when he offers to do the ironing I still say “don't be silly” and I just get on with it myself.

The episode with the knickers seems to have changed him and me not being a confident woman, should I just carry on as we are. It has taken me a lot of courage to write this mail, but I do feel I need advice of some kind.