Q&A Forum - June 2019 (Best of Elise)

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Q. I am wondering if you can help me. My husband and I have been married for 11 years and over that time our D/S relationship has been growing. We have wonderful play sessions and over the last 3-4 years have been having periods of days/weeks when he is submissive顺从 — willing to obey to me 24/7全天 — all day and every day. He tries his best to serve me and look after my needs. He sleeps at the foot of my bed on the floor and tries to meet my exacting standards. However there are two situations which I find difficult.

Firstly when we are out in social situations I allow him to have more freedom but I feel he oversteps the mark and his focus is taken off my needs and I don't know how to ensure that he remembers his place without chastising him too openly. Secondly our new house needs quite a lot of work and I require him to carry out some quite difficult Do-It-Yourself jobs which involve planning etc. As I have no DIY knowledge I cannot tell him what to do and when he is working he can get very frustrated shouting and swearing and generally destroying my calm. For some of the jobs an extra pair of hands is required and he has to direct me and this does not feel comfortable for me as I feel it is a reversal of our roles.

I would like him to be my sub顺从者 — a submissive person for longer periods but I am not sure how we can sustain this unless I find a way to deal with these issues. Can you help?